It’s Not That You Don’t Want It

When you feel stuck, it’s easy to assume you’re just not motivated enough. You want change, you say you’re ready, and yet. Nothing sticks. You skip your habits. You delay the start. You spend more time scrolling for inspiration than actually acting on it. And then the guilt hits. You start thinking something must be wrong with you.

But motivation isn’t the problem. It’s not that you’re lazy. It’s not that you’re inconsistent. It’s that the process you’ve built doesn’t spark anything in you. It doesn’t energize you. It doesn’t engage you. It feels flat, repetitive, disconnected. And when the process feels lifeless, it makes sense that you don’t want to follow through.

If the Routine Feels Empty, So Will the Outcome

So often we create routines that are technically “good”. Efficient, disciplined, structured, but they’re also completely soul-draining. They leave no room for joy. No flexibility. No reward other than the vague promise of future results. That’s not motivation. That’s pressure dressed up as progress.

If the path to your goals feels dry, tedious, or like it belongs to someone else’s life, you won’t stick with it. And that doesn’t mean you’re uncommitted. It means you need a process that connects with you emotionally, not just intellectually.

You’re Not Supposed to Feel Inspired by Systems That Aren’t Yours

Copy-pasting someone else’s “perfect” routine rarely works. You can try to follow the meal plan, the workout split, the 5am wake-up. But if it doesn’t match your energy, your lifestyle, or your values, it’s going to wear off fast. What you need isn’t a stricter routine. You need a process that actually respects your rhythms. Something that makes you feel like you, not someone you’re trying to keep up with.

When you’re underwhelmed by your own process, that’s a sign. Not that you need to quit, but that you need to recalibrate. Add more of what excites you. Give yourself something to look forward to. Make it creative. Make it flexible. Make it feel like it belongs to your life.

For me, this was workout classes. It is way more expensive but because I wake up at 5am, so excited to do it because I found something I enjoy, I changed my entire sleeping schedule for it. I changed my work hours for it in fact! I personally love workouts that I don’t have to wear shoes and that I am in a room full of women struggling together as our teacher motivates us.

Build a Process You’re Willing to Come Back To

The most successful routines aren’t the ones you force yourself through. They’re the ones you’re willing to return to, even when you fall off, even when life is chaotic. And that’s only possible if the process itself gives something back. If it makes you feel capable, connected, grounded. If it doesn’t drain your identity just to keep it going.

So if you’ve been stuck, ask yourself: Is this process inspiring me or just managing me? Am I building something that works for the person I actually am? or the version of me I think I should be?

You’re Allowed to Rework the Path, Not the Goal

You don’t have to abandon your goals just because the process isn’t working. You can still want what you want. You just might need a different way to get there. One that feels more alive. One that you’re excited to return to. One that doesn’t just challenge you, but supports you, too.

So no, you’re not unmotivated. You’re just tired of going through the motions that don’t move you. And that’s not a flaw. That’s your signal to build something better.